You may look successful and capable on the outside, yet still find yourself stuck in painful relationship patterns. Perhaps you worry constantly about being rejected, struggle to trust others, put everyone else's needs ahead of your own, or never quite feel good enough. Therapy can help you understand these patterns, heal from the experiences that shaped them, and create lasting change.
At Be Heard Live Well, I specialize in helping adults heal from attachment trauma, relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, people-pleasing patterns, and low self-worth. While everyone's story is unique, many people find themselves struggling in one or more of the following ways.
People-Pleasing, Boundaries, & Self-Worth
Do You Put Everyone Else's Need Before Your Own?
People-pleasing and low self-worth often go hand in hand. You may struggle to say no, feel responsible for others' emotions, avoid conflict, or feel you are not enough. Over time, these patterns can leave you feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and disconnected from your own needs.
Signs You May Be Struggling with Self-Worth
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People-pleasing
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Difficulty setting boundaries
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Self-doubt
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Fear of disappointing others
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Chronic guilt
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Feeling like you're not good enough
Attachment Trauma & Fear of Abandonment
Do You Constantly Worry About Being Rejected, Left Behind, or Forgotten?
Do you often worry about where you stand with the people you care about? You may fear being rejected, abandoned, or forgotten, even in relationships that seem safe. Attachment trauma can leave you constantly seeking reassurance, questioning your self-worth, or struggling to feel emotionally safe with others.
Common Signs of Attachment Trauma
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Fear of abandonment or rejection
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Fear or worry when someone seems distant
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Feeling insecure in relationships
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Getting attached too quickly
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Staying in unhealthy relationships to avoid being alone
Trauma from Harmful or Abusive Relationships
Does a Past Relationship Still Affect How You Feel About Yourself and Others?
A painful relationship can have lasting scars, even long after it ends. You may feel guarded, struggle to trust others, replay past events, or wonder if you'll feel like yourself again. Healing from relationship trauma is possible and you don't have to feel like you're alone.
Common Signs of Relationship Trauma
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Feeling emotionally guarded and shut down
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Feeling like you cannot trust yourself or others
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Lingering anger, resentment, sadness, or other difficult emotions
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Feeling stuck in memories of the past
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Fear of being hurt again
How Trauma Therapy and EMDR Help Heal Relationship and Attachment Trauma
EMDR helps the brain and nervous system reprocess painful experiences. This way, those experiences lose their emotional charge, and physical sensations tied to the trauma lessen or stop altogether. Memories that once felt overwhelming become less intrusive and less distressing.
EMDR therapy can help with:
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Fear of abandonment, feeling too attached, avoiding attachment, and relationship trauma.
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Healing after abusive or toxic relationships.
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People-pleasing and setting appropriate boundaries.
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Difficult or intense emotions or numbness.
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Low self-worth and chronic self-doubt.
This work involves collaboration and a careful pace. You won’t face pressure to relive trauma; we will support you in healing safely.
About Me
Hi, I'm Kassandra Barry, a licensed psychotherapist and owner of Be Heard Live Well.
I help adults who live in Maryland, Virginia, and DC heal from relationship trauma, attachment wounds, and fear of abandonment. I also address people-pleasing patterns and the emotional fallout from harmful or abusive relationships.
You might have experienced pain in relationships that should have felt safe. You might be wondering whether you’ll ever achieve complete healing or if this is simply how life will always feel.
It doesn’t have to be.
I’ve helped many people rebuild confidence, restore emotional safety, and create secure, fulfilling relationships.
Kassandra Barry has been a lifeline during during my journey through trauma recovery. She's incredibly knowledgeable and qualified and guided me through the process with clarity and care. Kassandra is a phenomenal listener, always making me feel heard and understood. Her empathy created a safe space where I could process my experiences without feeling judged.
Working with Kassandra at Be Heard Live Well has been transformative. She helped me through the toughest time of my life, she understood what I was going through, and really seemed to care. She listened and made me feel validated and respected. I can't recommend her enough for anyone seeking a compassionate and skilled therapist.